November 30, 2017

25 Lessons I've Learned in 25 Years

Today I turn 25 years old.

That seems like an unreal age for me. I felt this way when I turned 13 years old, 16 years old, 18, 20, and 21. The past few birthdays have been uneventful but yet, here we are at another milestone.

For my last milestone birthday, I was in my senior year of college, ready to drink my face off for the next few months and just living life, however I wanted too. I had no responsibilities aside from sorority chapter and going to class, and I felt like I would never get off the high I was on.

Fast forward to now and I'm heading into my third year at my first full-time job, I'm living at home, single, and in need of more of a social life. I work a lot, blog a lot, and spend my money too frivolously.

It's no secret I had a rough few years; I transitioned out of college, adjusted to life at home, lost my dad, and have just been growing up. Now, I no longer can be classified as a silly twenty-something. I'm 25 years old. I'm a real adult with real responsibilities and it's time to start acting like it.

That may sound too harsh but I came to a realization a few weeks ago. I need to stop shopping, I need to make some big life changes, I need to put myself out there. It's time to buck up and get serious. I'm going to be 30 years old in five years and I'll be damned if I'm in the same place then.

I'm rambling a little bit but you get the picture. It's been a rough early twenties and I'm ready for a change. Maybe 25 is the change I need?

All that being said, I wanted to be a cliche blogger and break down for you some of the biggest lessons I've learned, almost all occurring within the last five years. Some will be long, others will be short but stick with me.



1. Stop waiting & just do it: I've been wanting to lose weight forever but I had my breaking point this summer and have lost 23 pounds so far. When you want to do something, there is no right time... just do it now. There is no better time than the present.

2. Spend the extra dollar: My friend Tyler said something a few years ago that stuck with me. "You can always earn more money"... while this isn't true for everyone, it's true for almost all of us. If you want that latte, just buy it. That $5 will fall back into your lap somehow.

3. Alone time is essential: I am a huge advocate for alone time and it's something I realize more and more. Spending time with yourself is the best way to learn about yourself. If you don't want to spend time with you, who will?

4. Step outside your comfort zone: Take the phone interview, cold email the company, take a risk -- it'll pay off in the end.

5. Get help when you need help: It's not weak to ask for help; if you have anxiety, go to a therapist and get medication (exactly what I did), if you need help at work, ask for it. No one will help you if you don't ask.

6. You 'fall out' with friends & find your way back: If your friend is really your friend, you will always fall back together. Your real friends will be there for you when you really need it and it'll mean more than you'll ever realize.

7. Timing is everything: If it's not the right time, it's not the right time. It'll all work out in the end, whether it's relationships, jobs, money, or friends.

8. Don't worry about others: Like I said in my blog post yesterday, I'm whimsical and don't care who knows it! I used to be embarrassed about sharing my blog with everyone I knew but now IDGAF and most of my friends read it! (HI!) Just do you, boo.

9. Do what is best for you: In the same breath, you have to take care of yourself and do what is right for you. If you can't go out on Friday night because your body is screaming, just stay home. If something is going to make you anxious to the point of sickness, don't do it. Just do you.

10. It is not the end of the world: Nothing is the end of the world; if you're not a doctor or lawyer, your work is just work. The fight with your friend won't last forever, and everything will pass. Nothing is the end of the world, there is always a solution.

11. Grief will hit you anytime, anywhere: On Thanksgiving, I cried my eyes out for about 10 minutes because I missed my dad. Other days I don't cry at all or even feel like crying. However, grief will hit you at weird times and you need to feel it; ride it out and let it consume you. It gets better every day.

12. Step away from the phone: Some days I wish I could delete all social media and throw my phone out a window. Sometimes it's good to disconnect and just be for a while.

13. If you don't like someone, stop talking: There is no room for negativity in your life. If someone rubs you the wrong way, you can just not talk to them. If you can't stand someone's social media posts, just unfollow them. It's simple and very liberating.

14. Keep a password keeper: This is more of a rational, easy to do item; download a password keeper app on your phone and store your passwords there. It's a lifesaver!

15. To do lists are king: Another rational item, keep a to-do list for everything. Whether it's on your phone or in a notebook, your life will be easier if you have a to-do list.

16. Life without passion is nothing: Find something you LOVE to do and stick to it. It doesn't have to be your job, although that is nice, find a hobby, a charity, something to dedicate yourself too. Don't come home after work and sit on the couch. Find a passion, your life will be better for it.

17. Don't compare yourself to others: A few of my friends have moved out and have had multiple jobs, they have boyfriends and are doing something big with their life. I don't feel ready to move out yet so I need to stop comparing myself to them. They're not better than me and vice versa so don't compare yourself to people you know or people on the internet.

18.  Heartbreak: You will get your heartbroken, more than once, and at times you will feel like you are drowning but I promise, you're not.Each day gets better and the world keeps turning. It's going to be ok.

19.  Learn to say no: At work, in your personal life, just learn the word no. Don't be a yes person, especially when it is inconvenient for you.

20. Family time is important: I have few regrets but one of them is not spending enough time with my dad while he was alive. Now I make sure to spend as much time with my mom and the rest of my family. It's more important than anything because you always have your family, even when you feel like you have nothing.

21. Understand what you like and don't like, and accept it: I was going to go out on Saturday for my birthday to a bar with some friends. I didn't want to do a brunch because I always do. Well, then I thought about it and I hate bars and hate going out at night. So I planned a brunch & I can't wait. Why would I try to pretend that's what I wanted to do when it wasn't? It's not about being different and stepping out of your comfort zone (for this) but if you like something and you'd rather do that, then do it!

22. Being kind is not hard: In today's world, we need all the kindness we can get. It's not hard to smile at someone, hold the door, or just be a good soul.

23. Research is your friend: I love research so much. Learn to look for the things you need; if you need to know how you'll react to a medicine, what questions to ask on an interview, or what kind of puppy you should adopt... just research it. The internet is there for the taking!

24. Bored? Do something!: My mom always asks me what I do every day because, after work, I'm always perched at my desk doing something. I don't like to be bored so I always find things to do, whether it's blogging, reading blogs, writing an article, or on Pinterest, I entertain myself because that's what I like to do to keep myself entertained.

25. Everything happens for a reason: I will probably get this tattooed on my body at some point in life. What is for you, will not pass you and there is a reason for everything. It's my motto, my mantra and what keeps me sane. I truly believe it too. There is a reason for everything, we just may not realize it yet.

Thank you all for reading, for being a follower and for letting me be me!

xoxo
B

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